The Đoài Fate symbolizes the image of the mouth, often associated with cheerful and outgoing speech. When cultivated properly, it reflects sophistication, tact, and deep understanding.

However, trouble often stems from the mouth. At times, efforts to persuade or express opinions without careful attention to words can lead to unnecessary conflicts.

The core of this energy lies in sincerity during communication. It’s not just about being eloquent; it’s about fostering joy and connection with others.

Care with words is essential, as sensitivity to emotions can lead to impulsive, inappropriate speech. Staying mindful of language is the key to maintaining relationships, as it’s easy to get entangled in complicated dynamics.

This energy demands finesse, or else words can be distorted, sounding insincere or becoming a source of conflict.

When not properly cultivated, one may come across as tactless or overly talkative. For instance, criticizing or mocking a husband with a short temper can escalate to domestic violence. 

This gentle energy is challenging to nurture. Its symbolic connection to the mouth often results in venting frustrations verbally before seeking solutions.

A husband embodying thunderous energy is easily provoked, loud, and impulsive. This type of personality thrives on making a scene and struggles with self-control, often resorting to physical reactions when emotions run high.

In such a household, if the wife cannot manage her words and the husband remains easily triggered, stories like the above are inevitable.

The husband’s restless nature often creates undue tension, demanding changes, setting expectations, and placing pressure on others. His mind, plagued by negativity, complicates life and frequently results in anger that harms his wife and children. Thunder doesn’t concern itself with right or wrong—it’s noisy and chaotic by default.

In this dynamic, the wife’s attempts to explain or advise often lead to more conflict.

While the husband may promise change, his highly reactive energy makes it hard to sustain those efforts. When stress arises, instinct takes over, leading to exaggerated responses that hurt the family.

For balance in the household, the wife needs to cultivate her language, and the husband needs to develop a more positive attitude. Without these efforts, the husband’s negative tendencies will harm those around him, and his rigid mindset will impose undue pressure.

If the wife lacks the compassion and finesse to understand him, she may consider divorce as her solution.

The couple mirrors one another. The wife’s flexibility should guide problem-solving instead of engaging in verbal disputes with her husband. On the other hand, the husband’s rigidity and stubbornness often escalate challenges.

Although the husband is capable, his unstable emotions lead to uncontrolled actions. His affection can be intense, but when anger takes over, he may not realize the extent of his harm until it’s too late. This energy is typical of individuals with potential but deeply unstable psyches.

The more temperamental the husband, the more the wife must refine her speech. Her efforts can help calm him and maintain a peaceful, steady approach. But if she resorts to criticism, it’s like adding fuel to the fire.

Part of the couple’s energy falls into “fatal harmony,” often trapping them in extreme situations with no apparent way out. For instance, prolonged abuse may make divorce feel like the only option. Some families face financial ruin, hopelessness, or even life-threatening situations.

In such fatal harmony, couples might spend years together without truly understanding each other. Sometimes, the birth of a harmonious child can restore balance. Other times, divorce may release them from overwhelming incompatibility, allowing them to find stability separately.