"He only gives me 5 million VND per month for expenses, and when I gave birth to our two children, it was a little over 10 million. Recently, he’s been giving 8 million per month. But I just found out that he has saved up twice as much as I have, even though he always says I’m the main breadwinner.

I feel exhausted because we don’t own a house and have to keep renting in different places since he’s been saving money instead of buying a house due to high property prices. I’ve had to shoulder the burden of making money to cover our expenses and save for a home since I’m almost 40 now. But he wants to move back to his hometown for a simpler life, saying our savings are enough for retirement. His hometown isn’t even a town center; it’s a rural area, while I’ve gotten used to living in Hanoi and want a good place for our kids’ education.

He thinks I’m stubborn and don’t listen to him. Over a year ago, due to conflicts with my mother-in-law, he told me to sign the divorce papers, and we separated for three months before getting back together. But it’s been over a year now, and nothing has changed. He’s still indifferent and talks too much, and I feel miserable living in a rented house with him. Earlier this month, he said he was moving back to his hometown and told me to pack up, so I moved out. But now that I’ve moved, I’m torn about whether I made the right decision for my kids.

My husband doesn’t love me, but he’s not a bad person either. I thought about keeping him around for the kids’ sake, but then there’s the prospect of living with my mother-in-law in the future, as my father-in-law has passed away. I’m afraid of all the complications that could arise. I feel lost.

Technically, we’re already divorced, and I’m raising our two kids, but emotionally, I still care for him. Thinking about the kids makes me feel even more conflicted. I don’t know if leaving for good this time is the best decision for the three of us, especially since we’ve separated a few times before. I keep wondering if we’re just not compatible, even in terms of feng shui.”

The Wife’s Energy: Represented by lightning—strong, intense, and action-oriented. When she decides to do something, she goes all in. Sometimes, she makes a mountain out of a molehill, leading to unnecessary tension when disagreements with her husband arise.

Because her energy is fast and dynamic, she often ends up paired with a husband who is slow-moving. This mismatch makes her impatient and frustrated when she doesn’t get an immediate response.

The lightning symbolism also means her emotions are easily stirred by thoughts, often negative ones. The more she overthinks, the more complicated things seem. Her mood is unstable, leading to quick tempers and anxious behaviors, which can manifest outwardly as chaos.

She struggles to accept differing viewpoints and, despite her hardworking nature, becomes discouraged when facing challenges. She moves quickly but lacks endurance.

When dissatisfied, she reacts harshly. Learning to maintain a calm and balanced attitude is crucial. Her inner storms of thoughts and feelings often spill over into her relationships, making others feel pressured.

She tends to stick rigidly to one solution, lacking flexibility in problem-solving. For example, her dissatisfaction with her husband’s lack of financial transparency creates a disconnect, and their conversations lack depth.

Her “lightning” energy makes surprises and sudden changes common in her life, making it harder for her to remain calm and adaptable. Stress is a frequent companion, and she often expresses it outwardly in excess. Developing patience and calmness is a key life lesson for her.

While she’s resilient and diligent, her tendency to overthink can make decision-making difficult. She needs to learn self-control and moderation, as impulsive actions often lead to undesirable consequences. Internal unrest often leads to external chaos, making it hard to recognize her own strengths and weaknesses.

The Husband’s Energy: Represented by a mountain—stable, calm, and grounded. He prioritizes saving and security, fearing financial instability and a lack of respect.

The “mountain” energy is passive, preferring to accumulate and hold onto things rather than act. He often appears indecisive, avoiding risk and opting for the safest solutions. His stubbornness can make communication with his wife challenging, especially since her “lightning” energy demands quick decisions.

His reserved nature means he rarely speaks from the heart, which frustrates his wife and hinders emotional connection.

Being a mountain, he avoids risky actions, such as taking out loans for a house. He prefers solutions that require minimal change. This stability often turns into resistance to new ideas, making it hard for him to take bold steps.

Both spouses tend to impose their own views on each other, leading to poor communication and hurt feelings.

For the husband, improving his communication skills—speaking thoughtfully and appropriately—is vital. Otherwise, careless words can exhaust his wife emotionally.

His reluctance to take risks creates tension in their relationship, especially regarding big decisions like buying a house. His preference for security makes him inflexible, which clashes with his wife’s dynamic and urgent energy."