The wife’s energy lesson in this family revolves around growth and responsibility. Therefore, she must endure many challenges to achieve a certain level of maturity in her mindset. When operating correctly, she’ll know what she needs to do in the family, recognize her responsibilities, and understand her role. At times, she’ll realize that she cannot rely on or expect her husband to resolve the family’s issues.

Like the image of a still lake, she may appear calm on the surface, but deep inside, she might feel chaotic, making it hard to maintain inner peace. The lesson is about endurance and being ready to adjust mentally to difficulties and challenges.

The ability to endure adversity also reflects a high sense of responsibility, but it can easily lead to psychological stress as she takes on many burdens while her capacity has limits. Nearly all family matters, big or small, fall on her shoulders, and at times, even hoping for her husband’s help feels difficult.

In this family dynamic, the more she tries to maintain harmony, the more unreasonable her husband seems. Being with someone who lacks responsibility forces her to try harder. This includes facing issues directly, avoiding avoidance or blame, to become a solid support system in the family.

But at times, when she cannot find enough strength to overcome the lesson, she feels restless and tired. Looking at her husband, she sees irresponsibility and authoritarianism. The more she expects from him, the more tense the family becomes, leaving her feeling isolated with no support.

The husband’s energy lesson is about transforming internal emotions into external strength. His image is like “Earth,” absorbing everything that falls onto it. Therefore, his environment is extremely important for this type of person.

When directed positively, this represents someone who is ready to care for others and prioritize the needs of the family and others above himself. When well-nurtured, his resilience can handle challenges well, often absorbing and transforming them, much like how the Earth turns into diamonds or metals.

But if he cannot transform and absorb what he takes in, he will externalize it with criticism, micromanagement, authoritarian behavior, and imposing control, stemming from an inability to transform his inner self.

Because his image is Earth, he absorbs everything from the outside, so his temperament is often unstable and dependent on external conditions. He reacts impulsively, speaks his mind freely, is easily offended, and nitpicks over small family matters.

When the husband is unbalanced, arguments, insults, and a lack of respect for his wife arise, making it hard to sustain a happy family. Meanwhile, the wife, learning her lesson of responsibility and growth, becomes increasingly exhausted.
The couple’s compatibility aligns with what is called “Absolute Death,” which fundamentally signifies death itself. In modern terms, this often translates to breakdowns, divorce, or separation. “Absolute” represents a state of no progress, like debts, failed ventures, and escalating tension, leading to unbearable situations for one or both.

This pushes one or both partners into a position where they must make a decision to liberate themselves. In the past, divorce was strongly avoided, so people often ended their lives instead.

This is the problem for most families. The more mismatched the mindsets, the harder the lessons. The wife must learn responsibility and patience, so she encounters a husband who is overly dependent, controlling, and disrespectful. The husband must learn how to transform negative emotions to preserve family happiness before his wife and children reach their limits.